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Tips for Self-Care and Living a More Positive Life

be kind to yourself

Self-care is one of those buzz words that you’ve been seeing and hearing everywhere. If you are on any type of social media, which I’m sure you are, then you’ve come across it at some point. In case you are unfamiliar with this word, self-care describes actions that one might take to reach optimal physical and mental health. Self-care can also refer to the activities that the individual engages in to relax. Of course that can mean different things for everyone.

I see so many people, especially women, thinking that they have to be everything to everyone. The truth of the matter is… you DON’T! You have to learn to say no. This is so important. You have to take some responsibility for yourself and your well-being and speak up. If you don’t want to do something, you don’t have to. If you don’t have the time, you don’t have to fill every last minute full of plans or events or tasks that you don’t want to do in the first place. Being busy isn’t a badge of honor. You aren’t going to win an award for “Person Who Is On the Move 24/7” or “Person Who Can Fit the Most in Their Day.” Another thing I’ve noticed is that some people feel guilty for saying no. Well, STOP!! If they are a friend or any other sort of decent human being, they will understand if you say no to something. Personally, I hate being busy. It simply isn’t fun. I’m very choosy of how I’m going to spend my time.

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Honestly, the word self-care kind of makes me cringe (as do all of those other trendy buzzwords), and I’ll tell you why! When I see a person talking about self-care, it’s usually because they have neglected themselves and now they may be close to burnout. They always mention scenarios from their lives about how they like staying busy, how they can’t say no, or it’s been ‘x’ number of weeks since they’ve done something for themselves. Self-care isn’t something that you should have to consciously take time for and pencil into your schedule. It should already be a part of your daily routine.

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Some people may think that self-care has to be this extravagant gesture to themselves, or maybe they see visions of themselves in a bathtub of bubbles surrounded by candles, even though baths aren’t their thing. Don’t let someone tell you that you are doing self-care wrong. Self-care means something different for everyone. For me, bubble baths aren’t a form of self-care because they are just simply a part of my daily routine. It isn’t something extra that I do, it’s just something I do and have always enjoyed. Maybe someone might argue that I am practicing self-care or that I made that form of self-care into my daily routine? Maybe. Maybe not. I just know that I don’t go a day without taking care of myself in some way. I always make sure to make some time for myself, whether that is sitting on the couch mindlessly watching Netflix, painting my nails, or even going out to an event. Self-care is a necessity and should be incorporated into your life, if it isn’t.

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When I know I look good, I feel good. I feel more confident and feel like taking on the world. If I feel I look less than stellar, then I won’t feel confident and won’t feel like accomplishing anything. I think that’s why so many women try practicing self-care habits that have something to do with our looks. Ladies (and guys too!), there’s nothing wrong with that! You can grab a new lipstick or a face mask, and you won’t even have to leave your house!

smile brilliant case

Since smiles are one of the very first things that people notice, Smile Brilliant and I teamed up together to discuss their at home teeth whitening system. Having a great smile will definitely boost anyone’s confidence and it’s a great way to practice self-care! Who wouldn’t want a dazzling white smile? You don’t have to go to a crowded doctor’s office or pay hundreds or thousands of dollars. You can do it from the comforts of your own home!

The best part? You can see results!

teeth whitening gel

I was first introduced to Smile Brilliant last year in October. Once you receive your kit, you’ll need to make impressions of your teeth with the molding kit that they provide. You will then send the impressions back to the company, so they can send you your teeth whitening trays. The custom trays make sure that the trays are a perfect fit for your smile! The whitening process only takes 45 minutes to 3 hours, depending on your sensitivity. You use the desensitizing gel treatment for only 15 to 20 minutes. Also, it’s important to note that each syringe equals 3 to 4 treatments. Did you know that Smile Brilliant’s gel products are vegan and cruelty free? While your trays are in, sit back and relax! I’ve put together some ideas that you can do while you wait!

self care tips and positivity

Ideas for Self-Care:

  1. Paint your nails a new color.
  2. Try out a new face mask.
  3. Binge watch a TV show on Netflix.
  4. Read a book for pleasure.
  5. Take a hot bubble bath.
  6. Go for a walk in nature.
  7. Listen to your favorite songs or podcasts.
  8. Unplug from social media.
  9. Go to a comedy show.
  10. Get creative – do a little DIY!
  11. Go out with a friend.
  12. Try out a new recipe or….
  13. Order some take out.
  14. Cuddle your pet.
  15. Take a nap.

Tips for Self-Care and Living a More Positive Life:

  1. Learn how to say NO.
  2. Laugh.
  3. Stay away from drama and negativity.
  4. Surround yourself with positive people.
  5. Don’t be a people pleaser
  6. Set boundaries.
  7. Express gratitude.
  8. Keep track of your accomplishments.
  9. Train yourself to see the positive in everyday (It’s extremely possible – it’s how I live my life!)
  10. Stop overthinking everything.
  11. Relax.
  12. Stop comparing yourself to others.
  13. Don’t be a doormat. Stop letting people walk all over you.
  14. Don’t stress over things that you cannot control.
  15. Forgive yourself for mistakes that you’ve made.

If you want to try out Smile Brilliant for yourself, I’m offering my readers $25 off!


Your turn: Do you practice self-care daily? What do you do for your self-care?

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  • So many nice tips! Thank you!

  • Samantha O’Brian Summers

    You always have the best posts ❤. I’m trying to implement my own self care routine to help keep me sane.

  • You know, I think I probably do something for myself everyday. But the problem is how guilty I feel about it. I always have a todo list a mile long and it often overwhelms me so that I end up just binging Netflix and not doing a single thing on the list. Then I’m even more stressed out. The self-care activity did the opposite of what it is supposed to do. lol I think that’s why right now, for me, I need to be intentional about scheduling self-care. If it’s on the schedule and I only indulge for the set amount of time, I don’t feel guilty about it. I can actually enjoy it.

    • I think sometimes we need to extend ourselves grace. I’m guilty of planning on just sitting around for 2 hours, but then that turns into 4 hours and nothing I wanted to get done, got done. It’s good that you don’t feel guilty about it when you schedule it!

  • I like that you incorporated this whitening kit into your self-care. I hate being busy, too! It’s not a good feeling. I would rather be relaxed!

    • Same here!! If I’m going to be busy, it’s going to be something fun! I don’t want to be busy and have that time full of errands or appointments.

  • Whitney this post is soooo on point! Thanks for reminding me that I need to take care of “me” a lot more than I already do.
    I might schedule a walk soon or even just get my nails done, Haha😂

    • Yesss!! You should. You are definitely worth it!!

  • Marissa Pedersen

    Being around positive people is SO important. Negativity can bring you down so fast.

    • Negative people can drag you down, and if you weren’t already negative, you could turn into one just by being in their company!

  • Chandni Patel

    Some tips everyone should follow… thanks for such a great post! 🙂

  • Ruthie Ridley

    LOVE these tips!! So So true!!

  • kdwald

    I love that they are vegan and cruelty free!

    • Me too!! I think that’s such a great thing!

  • Love that you said “learn to say no” because that is something that often causes me problems and I don’t realize it until I’m already putting myself in situations I shouldn’t have to deal with.

    xo, Kimberly

    • Saying no makes me sort of uncomfortable at times, especially since it’s a close friend. But I know if I say yes, I’ll be more stressed out whenever it comes time to do whatever they asked.

  • Dannielle Alphonse

    ah…self care is so important. Thanks for these ideas. We need to learn to love our selves from the inside out!

  • “Time you enjoy wasting isn’t wasted time.”
    I love this quote. 🙂

    Wholeheartedly agree that self care should be a DAILY thing, not something you try to schedule in when you’re on the fritz and close to burn out, like you said. I’m still learning this (aren’t we all??)

    One of my favorite ways to practice self care is to paint my nails. It’s so simple, but it seriously relaxes me…so therapeutic!

    Tendril Wild Blog

    • Yesss!! It’s like if you are close to burnout or already burned out, it’s a little too late. We can’t let it get to that point. I love having my nails done and changing up the color!

  • Ayanna

    Great tips!! Self-care is definitely important and finding what works for you is so important. I’m not a bubble bath kind of girl either, but give me a cup of tea, a book, and some quiet and I’m in heaven.

    • Ooohh!! I love bubble baths. I take one every night. But I mostly take them because I hate showers haha

  • These are great ideas for self care! I love that you shared what you like to do and reminded readers that you can’t pour from an empty cup because its SO true!

    • This was a sentiment that echoed throughout grad school. They always told me that you can’t take care of others unless you are taking care of yourself first.

  • shootingstarsmag

    Thanks for sharing! I know my mom wants to do eventually do something to whiten her teeth. I think self-care is important and that it should be part of your everyday life – if not daily, then at least a few times a week, depending on what makes you feel good.


    • That’s so true! If someone can’t do it everyday, then they should try to several times a week, instead of several times a year!

  • Nicole Condit

    Great suggestions for self-care. As a stay at home mom, it’s very important to remember to take care of yourself, otherwise the whole house suffers. Thanks for sharing this list

    • Thanks so much and you’re welcome 🙂

  • Self care is really important so I’m kinda glad that it is trendy at the moment. My favourite way to take care of myself is to take a moment each day to write in my journal. It feels so good to let all those pent up feelings out.

    • That’s such a great idea!! You can always look back and reflect on it in the future 🙂

  • Self-care is so important! So many of us don’t realize how valuable it truly is in our lives! I’m also looking into those teeth whitening products, they look amazing!

    The Felicia Renee | a minimalist lifestyle & beauty blog

    • Yessss!! I think so many people think it’s selfish or don’t realize how important it is to one’s well-being!

  • Self-care is so important to your happiness overall and your health 🙂 Loved all of these tips and having whiter teeth is definitely important too!

    Kristen |

    • Sooo true!! Self-care is so essential to one’s well-being!! Burnout is a real thing!

  • Nicole Pharr

    I am continuously working on this and I’ve definitely started to work to make this a natural part of my week versus a scheduled task. I love the suggestions you listed. Plus, I’m obsessed with my teeth so I’ll have to look into this whitening product further.

    • I think a lot of people how the mindset of that it’s selfish. I think by switching that mindset into knowing that it’s essential for health and happiness, it will make it easier. Also, I think it’s okay to make it scheduled but gradually make it so it’s a natural thing.

  • It’s saddening to me how many people don’t have self-care as a regular part of their lives! Also, I need to try SB!

    • It makes me sad too! It’s so important, because it prevents burnout and makes a person just all around happier!

  • I love this encouragement, girl! We could all use a reminder to use a little more self-care.

  • Rachel Ritlop

    I love all of your self care ideas! It’s so nice to treat yourself sometimes!

  • Self care is so important!! I try to schedule some self care time each week for myself. Love your suggestions!!

  • thesophiadiaries

    These are such great ideas!!! I love that learning to say no is important, esp since society doesn’t always teach it as a good thing!

    • Saying no makes me uncomfortable at times, but I know it’s for the best. I know that I would be miserable if I said yes to something that I really wanted to say no too.

  • Amber Brooks

    I believe that it becomes so easy to forget to take care of ourselves, in all aspects of care. I will have to put some of these ideas and thoughts into practice.

    • You should! You are totally worth it!

  • Taylor Smith

    Self care is SO important. We need to remember to put ourselves first.

    • Yes!! We can’t take care of others unless we take care of ourselves!

  • I love what you wrote about how we shouldn’t have to schedule self-care, but that it should be a part of our routine. I had never thought about it that way–but it makes so much sense! I am not usually that great at self-care, but something about being in the last few weeks of pregnancy, and dealing with all these life changes and hormones, has made me NEED to practice radical self-care every day just so I don’t melt down in a puddle of emotions. Ha ha!

    • Thanks so much 🙂 Girl, you need to relax and pamper yourself. You’ve earned it 🙂

  • I love what you say about pouring from an empty cup. It couldn’t be more true! I struggle with that as a mom. Thank you for your post!

    • Thanks so much and you’re welcome 🙂

  • Bailey

    Painting my nails a fun color while binge watching netflix is one of my favorites.